Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Who is smarter?

For all of you stopping by from Multiples and More - HELLO!  For those that don't know, Multiples and More is a great blog dedicated to parents of twins, triplets, quads, etc - hence the name Multiples and More.  They are fabulous! Each week they present articles for parents on everything from what type of stroller to buy to books for parents.  And of course they feature readers/parents of multiples - which today is on ME!  YIPEE!

On to the matter at hand - who is smarter?

That ignorant question got asked by an older gentlemen to my twins while standing in line at Golden Corral Friday night.  I about fell over.  He apparently knew they were twins, and wanted to ask something witty, but really - who is smarter? 

Twins find themselves loving each other, but also in constant competition with each other.  As parents, many of us work hard not to compare them.  They are two different people, who happen to have been born at the same time.  Just like we all have our strengths and weaknesses so do they.

T2 was good, he answered "Well I'm smarter in math, but he is smarter in reading."  T1 got upset at the beginning of the statement, hearing that he wasn't as good at math, but then realized what T2 was saying was true.  They are different, while their aptitudes are very similar, T1 just gets reading faster.  And T2 gets math faster. 

The man didn't know how to respond.  What did he expect, one of them to say "I am!"  Not in my house.  No one is "smarter" than anyone else, or "better" than anyone else.  We are all different and all good at different things.  It may be easy to compare twins, but really, let's not make it worse on them than it already is.

What questions to people ask your kids that you hate?


  1. Congrats on being the FB on the MoMs site! I need to go check it out today!

    Your twins are so awesome. Mine take every opportunity to throw one another under the bus...I like that your twins are able to see the positives in each other.

    I guess all I can do is hope that by the time my kids are 7, they'll actually like one another??

  2. Well, what a way for them to stick it to him! That's awesome! ;-)

    My daughter is 2 and, luckily, hasn't been asked too many questions that I hate...I can't even think of one right now. Maybe she's too sheltered. lol

    Found ya via SITS...I'm going to take a look around. :)


  3. Some people just don't think before they spew crap out. Not something cool to say (or even think) to kids.

  4. That was a wierd question. What, was he trying to incite an argument among them? I'm glad T2 was ready for him.

  5. Yay for being the FB on Multiples & More!! I was so excited for you when I saw it over there. :-)

    And what a jerky old man...I guess the idiotic questions regarding twins never stop, do they?

  6. That is such a great lesson for the twins...no one is smarter or better - only good at different things.


  7. stopping by from M and M!Congrats on your Day!!!! What a kind answer from your twin!! I feel the same way about my kids!
    The question I don't like is: Are they identical?followed by girls or boys?? I have B/G twins and although they do look alike one is definitely a boy and one a girl:)
    Stop by when you can
    p.s. your baby boy is precious!!

  8. It was fun reading your interview over at M&M! Adorable family! Thanks for the advice on school age kiddos. Since my babies are toddlers, I don't think they've been asked questions yet. But of course we get them all the time, like are they identical? Ummm there's 2 pink coats and 2 blue! Have fun!

  9. Congrats on being featured! I've spent some time browsing and it seems you're doing an amazing job with your boys. Keep it up. :)

    I hate it when people try to define twins. Just because they have the same birthday, doesn't make them the same or polar opposites.

  10. Great job being featured over on M and M! I enjoyed checking out your blog...and am going to follow along. It's interesting hearing about what "older" twins are doing. Mine aren't quite three yet!

    All three of your boys are adorable! : )

  11. most old guys are stupid. i have found that going to the rec early in the morning. nothing but old stupid guys for MILES.

    hey if you wanna be one of my top blogs of the week, email me at speakingfromthecrib@yahoo.com. i'd love it!

  12. I think they've put him right in his place!!

    Let that be a lesson!

  13. That's a great testament to how you and ur hubby treat your boys.. That was the perfect answer. T2 answered truthfully and honestly but definitely thoughtfully as not to hurt T1's feelings or alienate T1 from the conversation.. Good job!

  14. My 2 year old wears glasses and has been since age 1. So many people ask me if they are real!

    Isn't that weird?

  15. Your children handled that with grace!
    I have 7 children, I was once asked in front of them if I had really wanted them all.


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