On to the matter at hand - who is smarter?
That ignorant question got asked by an older gentlemen to my twins while standing in line at Golden Corral Friday night. I about fell over. He apparently knew they were twins, and wanted to ask something witty, but really - who is smarter?
Twins find themselves loving each other, but also in constant competition with each other. As parents, many of us work hard not to compare them. They are two different people, who happen to have been born at the same time. Just like we all have our strengths and weaknesses so do they.
T2 was good, he answered "Well I'm smarter in math, but he is smarter in reading." T1 got upset at the beginning of the statement, hearing that he wasn't as good at math, but then realized what T2 was saying was true. They are different, while their aptitudes are very similar, T1 just gets reading faster. And T2 gets math faster.
The man didn't know how to respond. What did he expect, one of them to say "I am!" Not in my house. No one is "smarter" than anyone else, or "better" than anyone else. We are all different and all good at different things. It may be easy to compare twins, but really, let's not make it worse on them than it already is.
What questions to people ask your kids that you hate?