Friday, November 20, 2009

Dear Coach who is an %&&, these kids are only seven

Dear Coach who is an %&&,

Our children have been playing sports since they were wrestling in the womb.  They love sports and have unreal desire to play each and every game there is.  Even though they did not get their awesome athletic ability from me, I am going to support them in everything they do.

When I take them to practice or games, we go in expectation of having fun.  It is about enjoying exercise, learning something new, having fun with friends.  If we happen to win, great, if we don't, that is ok too.  I've taught my children that for every "winner" there must be a "loser" and that good sportsmanship is as important as actually winning the game.  They know they are not going to win every game and they know it is ok to lose.  At least they tried. 

During our last game, I was appalled at how you yelled at your players.  Your tone was one of a dictator instead of a coach and you never ever told them good job for something they did right.  Yes, your team is fairly good - they've been playing together since they were 4.  No, our team has not been playing together for longer than 2 months.  Most of our players haven't even played soccer before, but I didn't think that should matter. Apparently it does matter.  Apparently it means that your team should beat our team each and every time.

I know we amazed you when your team was only able to score on us once in the last game.  Does that mean you should get pissed off?  Does that mean you should yell that your team should have scored more?  Does that mean you should be mad at your team?  They tried really hard to score more often.  It just so happened that our goalie had learned a lot throughout the season and was on his A game that night.  Ever think to tell him good job?  After all they are only 7-8 year olds.

And our goalie - he thinks you're nuts.  He's glad you're not his coach (there went your dreams of recruiting an awesome goalie).  He loves that he was able to make a mean coach mad.

Mom of the goalie who pissed you off


  1. I remember watching my nephew play soccer and some coaches going nuts. However, in my town, crazy coaches get asked to step down and one of my nephew's coaches was booted off.

    If that isn't a rule in your town, it should be. Sportsmanship is a much more valuable lesson in left.

  2. Oh no he didn't!!! I can't stand parents like that. Cole and Bella just finished up with soccer and there were a few parents there who were yelling at their kids where to kick the ball and things like that. I was like, "They're only 4 and 5 years old!!!"

    Right now sports is all about being a team player and having fun. I couldn't agree with you more!

    BTW, Jennifer is sending out your CD!!!

  3. I can't stand it when the coaches are like that! What happened to having fun when playing a game??

  4. Dang, what is up with crazy a$$ coaches? We've experienced one of those during volleyball this last season that my daughter played in. Serious should be able to play and not get beat down by their coaches words and actions.

  5. Ugh! That is the worst!!

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  6. That is one of the many things that makes me discourage my kids from playing sports. I can't stand people like that and my town is full of them - coaches, parents, and grandparents screaming and cursing during games.


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