Ask someone who loves you what one of your weaknesses are. That's what Mama Kat said to do for this week's Writer's Workshop. Who wants to do that? (well if you want to - go play along here).
I didn't want to - and I sure as hell wasn't going to ask my husband what my weakness is. He'd come up with a whole darn list. Then I'd have to defend myself against all his crap leading to an epic battle of good verses evil.
I'd like to stay married, so no thanks. I did however ask my best friend, who loves me no matter what.
Me: I'm working on a project - need to ask you, What is my weakness?
BFF: You want to help everyone. What is the project?
Me: Why is helping everyone bad? Nope, not telling the project.
BFF: I think it is good to help people, just you need to take care of you too.
Well. I guess it could have been worse. She could have said my weakness was dirty old men.
Honestly - I know all they psyh crap that Oprah shows every week. Mom's don't take care of themselves enough. We need to put ourselves first. If we don't take care of ourselves, we won't be able to take care of anyone else. BLAH BLAH BLAH.
She is my best friend and she is right. I have extreme issues with doing anything for myself. I shut right up when she said it. I didn't want to talk about it anymore with her, because she knows me best. And she'll argue with me.
You guys, well, you guys can't argue until I actually post this. So I get to voice my opinion first.
Helping people is not a weakness. I love to help people. I love to be a Mommy and care for my family. I love to care for those outside of my family. I will go out of my way to help someone who needs it under one condition. They help someone else when they are able. If you are a lifesucker (meaning you suck the life out of others) then sorry- no can do.
I give of myself because I enjoy it. Yes, there are times when I get run down - exausted - a little frazzled. But those times are worth it. I was born to be a mom, to give to others, to take care of others.
So what if I believe others should come first. Why is that a big deal? Why is it a big deal that I only own 2 pairs of jeans, if I am able to make sure my children have enough. I can wash my own, and mine don't get as dirty. Why is it a big deal that I skip my trips to the dentist to send the kids? I believe that if my family and those around me are taken care of- then that is all that matters. I make do because I want to, not because I have to.
After stating my case I disagree, giving to others is not my greatest weakness. (I still love you BFF). I may need help from time to time taking care of me, but not too often to worry. I believe my greatest weakness are those new Reese's Whipped. What's yours?
Wherever you go, go with all your heart. ~Confucius