They asked why, and I answered truthfully - he was very old, and very sick. But to a young child, old is being 10, 30- is ancient. Somehow, I had put fear into them, unknowingly, that since Mommy was ancient, she was going to die soon. I didn't know how to calm their fears. You don't want your children to walk around always fearful, but you want them to understand the cycle of life.
So, I told them that old is 100, not 30.
Somehow that morphed into, when you turn 100 - you keel over.
The Movie, Kung Fu Panda, just helped this theory along. When Master Oogway, the turtle dies, it was his time, the twins believe it was because he turned 100 - thus making it his time.
Maybe it's not the best explanation, maybe I went about it the wrong way. As they've grown, they understand that death sometimes happens to younger people. They understand guns kill people, that people can get very sick and die, but for the most part we are all going to lead long lives. And that is the goal right?
What do you tell your children when they ask about death?
Some people are so afraid to die that they never begin to live. ~Henry Van Dyke.